Over 100 days have gone by where there has been an NFL lockout. Players and coaches can't have contact, mini camps can't happen, and potentially games can't be played. So what the NFL is showing me is that because grown men can't get along, the government has to intervene, act as a parent, and assist in coming up with a solution. Now I love sports, they're important to society and my life personally. However, I find it absolutely embarrassing that the government, who has things like terrorism, the budget, and civil rights to tend to has to intervene in such a non important (in the grand scheme of things) entity. I think we actually created the Constitution in less time. We elect a President in less time. In California, it takes us less time to figure out the state budget. But we can't come to a monetary agreement between players and the league in a reasonable time period? The NFL is a business, businesses do this kind of stuff daily. Figure it out, sign some papers, and get on the field, in the locker room, on the sideline, in the press box, and do your job. Appreciate it. Don't let it happen again.

People spend a lot of time judging. I'm not talking about the once in awhile comments everyone makes while people watching, I'm talking those people who have to have an opinion on everything. Everybody knows that one friend or co worker that has to comment on everything from what you're wearing to what you eat for lunch, to your love life. Girls are notorious for this mentality. And I'm over it. What does what someone is wearing, who they're dating, what they do for a living, or what they weigh have to do with you? Explain to me how it greatly impacts your life? I'll tell you how, it makes you negative; and negativity breeds negativity. You don't know what is going on in that person's life that makes them who they are. Making quick, irrelevant judgments of another person is negative, insecure, and boring. Try saying something positive about someone, or even to them. Sprinkle some positivity into your day, it's contagious. So the next time you feel like bashing someone for their shoes/clothes/hair/lifestyle choices; why don't you re-group, re-evaluate your thinking; and either say something positive, or STFU and mind your own damn business. Mom was right, if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

There are a lot of really trashtastic men and women out there today. It's not the 60's and 70's anymore, we know about aids, we know about STD's, they taught us sex ed when we were 12. There's no excuse for irresponsible sexual habits. Yet I watch my girlfriends wake up on Sunday morning laughing while they drive to CVS to get plan B like it's a multivitamin. I get sexual freedom, Samantha from sex & the city, rappers, and not to mention "sex addiction," but let's be honest, you're just a hoe. Everyone has their own moral beliefs, but if Tiger Woods is worth about a billion dollars and you can't turn him into a housewife, the rest of us are screwed because at least he had a billion dollars to offer. You're not Tiger Woods, you're broke AND you're slutty. I believe in getting yours, sometimes you need to get out there and get some strange ass, but be smart. Don't laugh because you don't remember the person's name or you were so drunk you forgot to use protection. It's not sexy to be slutty, it's not sexy to have herpes. It's sexy to be confident enough in yourself to make smart sexual decisions and to be proud of the fact that you care about the people you let get that close to you. And emotions aside, it's sexy to be healthy and STD free.

The Roster - An Introduction

Everything in my life revolves around sports. You can relate any situation in life to sports. Sports and life are both competitions, there are winners and losers, you have to train to succeed, and you have to play by the rules or risk a penalty.  Dating is the ultimate sport. You gotta recruit (meet people), you gotta have tryouts (get to know your recruits), there's cuts (Step up or step aside gentlemen), there's franchise players (we're talking MVP good), contract negotiations (your needs/wants from the other person), it's a system built on strategy. And if you don't play the game right, you will not have a winning team. Everybody wants a championship team. Nobody wants to be the 2008 Detroit Lions (0-16). I don't care who you are or what your thoughts are on sports, winning is everything in life, and winning in love, is the Super Bowl of life.

The Roster is the ultimate way to use the principles of sports in love. A strong roster ensures a strong love life and keeps you sane throughout the dating process; but only if you follow the rules and work a good strategy on and off the playing field. Much like an NBA team, the roster has a starting five. These are the best players on your team with number one being the team captain. Also just like in sports, you need a second string, or some players on the bench that are there for you when you need them. These are your three bench players. That puts you at a team of eight. Any more than eight and you're fielding a less than talented team. It's like having the dream team playing for you and then calling up the local high school and asking if a few of their kids would like to pinch hit in a world series game. You don't sacrifice quality. You may have less players at times in order to preserve the quality, but you need to have a minimum of three in play or the roster becomes ineffective. Less is not more ladies, less is less, less is what got you to where you are today. Less does not win you a championship ring.

The other day my girls and I were talking about men and who everyone was dating when I realized, I'm really not dating any of these men I talk to. We text, we talk, we "kick it," but when's the last time a guy legitimately asked me to dinner or to grab a drink? I have not the slightest idea. My girls and I quickly determined, nobody really dates anymore. It's all "you wanna come over and watch a movie until I try to stick my hand in your pants?" or "Oh you can cook, cook me dinner sometime, I'll bring a movie." Hanging out was cool in high school and for the first year of college, but I was promised bigger and better things in my 20's. My mom told me tales of dinner dates, quick lunches between classes, and grabbing drinks at happy hour after work. Nobody prepared me to be 25 and still getting last minute texts asking if I want to "watch a movie" tonight. Maybe I'm too old school, maybe my game isn't as tight as I thought, maybe I should start dating older men, but what happened to good old fashioned dating?