The Jump-Off: Know your place and play your position

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Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:13:37 +0100

He said she said? Where is the he? :) Could this be me? I can't deny that people will cheat. They always have and always will. If a woman will allow herself to be a sideline ho, then that is what she is. If a man allows himself to get trapped between a good woman and the scavenger for the sake of a piece of ass he need his balls handed to him. I agree that honesty is the best way. My question is Why be in a relationship if you are going to cheat. There are good people out there who deserve a mate that they can trust and rely on. I was a ho once but I have come to realize that when you get the love right you don't need to play around. You reep what you sow and sometimes reep what some one else sowed. Sometimes it's nice to have a cut buddy but it needs to be in writing that that's what it is. - Marcus J. James

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Wed, 11 Jun 2008 21:19:55 +0100

Well Well Well. Me myself hasn't really been a "relationship" type person. My last serious "boyfriend" was in high school. Since college I've always had "friends". A couple has been on a sexual level other were really friends. Personally, I don't agree on the whole "it's okay to cheat, as long as I don't know about it" thing. I think it's a waste of time and I believe in the end everybody ends up getting hurt. It's not worth it when you have to check your back everytime you step out the house or wonder who gone be calling playing on your phone. It's a downer! If you feel you want to hang out or have sex with more than one person, just be single! A jump-off is nothing but a word! Females say they're cool with the men having a "main" girl, but c'mon now! We all know that shit get's old. Feelings start to erupt and that's when the violence start. IT AIN'T WORTH IT! BE SINGLE, BE HAPPY AND BE SAFE! Much Love ~REETA SYMONE author of BEHIND THE DEVIL'S BACK. www.epiphanypub.com - REETA SYMONE

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Thu, 29 May 2008 02:50:11 +0100

The JUMP OFF is not so bad.She can be a good time killer. The main sqeeze has a habit of getting comfy. Then act a fool. The Jump Off tends to be easier to get along with than your girlfriend. Me personally I'm strictll Jump Offs right now.. 8) - dirk digga

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Sat, 24 May 2008 14:30:32 +0100

This situation is very true because men are like dogs in heat, they will lust over other women when they are in a serious relationship. The main lady can cook, clean, wash clothes, make sure everything is held down, even provide him with good love-making, and he will still try to find a way to go out the door. Men have no care in the world, they will start a relationship with another woman to fill her with false hopes of commitment. However, men will expect the other women to not catch feelings and go crazy once she became aware that her role is the other woman. In saying that men need to make sure they have a clear understanding with the women they choose as a jump-off before a fantasy love affair becomes a fatal attraction by the selfish actions that cause turmoil. - Latisha Turnage

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Thu, 22 May 2008 16:55:11 +0100

Yes today men tend to want to be viewed as in control of things, but my oppinion it's only the mne that have low self esteem.Because a true man don't have to be in control they jusy lead and the woman will naturally follow. - Author Darlena Taylor-Bonds

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Wed, 21 May 2008 21:26:22 +0100

The old days cheating was never really an issue because it was easy to keep a secret. Today, its to many gadgets that help contribute to being caught and people get into relationships already expecting the worse. Its real bad! People cheat for to many reasons, for ego, insecurity, self esteem, money etc.) Most Females pick the men most likely to cheat, how many females wants that rock star, or that lil wayne ... The majority of relationships I see have no real substance. They want a short term person for a long term relationship! Love isnt even a factor any more to most people. More and more people marry for money, or pursue a relationship with some one for popularity or prestige.. SO WITH THAT BEING SAID, WHEN YOU HAVE NO REAL CONNECTION WITH YOUR MATE BESIDES WHAT WAS MENTIONED ABOVE, GUESS WHAT YOUR MORE LIKELY TO CHEAT!! People STOP settling, and if your not ready for a commitment then dont be.. just let that person know wassup! Its nothing!! ;D - In reponse to comment below...

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Wed, 21 May 2008 20:47:32 +0100

well i personally think......when did we start accepting cheating, and settling for a man that will cheat on us, provided he doesn't bring the garbage home. This is letting men too far off the hook, some of these men are just as much the drama queen we credit to the jump off, they can't wait to put your relationship in jeopordy by "accidently" calling from the house phone, or leaving your personal items in the car from the day before so the jump off can comment on them and stroke his ego to let him know how much of a player he is. No woman should be putting up with a cheat if she's not married to him. You need to get right up in his face and spray him with that pestiside BOY FRIEND BE-GONE! And even if your married there is only so much you should put up with.......... See i remember those days when grandaddy had his thang on the side but nobody found out till his funeral, (lol) and only because his children that noone knew about came to hear the reading of his will... and even then grandma was respected and things was in order cuz grandaddy didn't play nobody disrespecting his Hattie Mae... fellas respect yourselves and stop trying to play games, ain't that much cooch in the world, be a man and fix the problem with the one your with or walk away from it all together! And women let's stop leaving it up to a man to determine how much pain we will have to endure before we say enough is enough - HOLD ON ONE MINUTE

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Wed, 14 May 2008 16:18:49 +0100

Lovely Article... There are some loyal Jump-off's that know how to play their position and there for they are kept around much longer...so I've heard. Honesty is the most important part of the jump-off situation. Let it be known that "it is what it is". If a person is honest, all of that crazy emotional crap is cut and has no reason to surface. But some people have no control over their emotions and think that they can change a person's mind. A real man will never leave his family and home for some good ass. If he does, then he is a weak ass man and I wouldn't want him anyway. Women that are considered Jump-Offs in my opinion have self esteem issues. What real woman wants to willingly fuck a person that she knows only whats a good nut and nothing else? I understand that women want and need sex just as much as men, but I'm old school when it comes to that and women should conduct themselves as ladies all of the time. In my opinion everyone cheats.The problem is the emotional attachment that comes along with good sex and some people (men and woman) can't handle it. - Daffanie

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Wed, 14 May 2008 05:49:26 +0100

Cheating is overrated!! If the person does decide to cheat, you have to make it a point not to bring it home... In cheating you never get your return, I believe people cheat out of curiousity and nothing more. Thing is whats you have tried it , its merely a one and done for most people! But then you have them people that try to maintain a relationship along side another one, those people fear being alone! That's a MAJOR weakness! Fear of being alone, causes you to have a plan "B" and even "C", and worst of all is when you do get one of them , its never solid! I mean they could be with you , to kill time, avoiding being alone, NOTHING is VALID!! ALL THEY DO IS SETTLE, and most have miserable lives looking for a thrill... So men do it because they can, its always been big! Funny thing is most girls don't care to have a virgin guy these days, they want the guy with the magic stick, they want to know what the hype is about! As for men hating to be cheated on, it's all about PRIDE! Pride is huge to us men... Men die in the streets everyday over pride! Moreover, if you are the victim of being cheated on move on peacefully , worst thing you can do is play tick for tack! Females are responsible for men not respecting them... At one point it was cool to be that well cut guy in a suit and it still is for some! But females desires a tatted up thug claiming blood or cuz.... Now a days gentlemen and educated men is being labeled as soft to most of these young females... And if ignorant, careless, crazy, pill poppin tatted thugs is what they desire, more men will desire to make that quota and become that guy! Its just my opinion, yadigg!! Love the article... - Ameer